Breaking the silence: Encouraging men to open up about mental health

Talking about how we’re feeling can be difficult. Sharing the realities of our mental health can make us feel vulnerable or uncomfortable, and this can be especially true for guys. And unfortunately, this mental health stigma is a growing problem for men in the United States.

Talking about mental health is crucial for your overall feeling of well-being. Breaking the silence and encouraging open conversations can help all of us feel better and boost our daily mental health.

For many men to feel comfortable opening up, it's essential to create a supportive environment where they can discuss their feelings and seek help when needed.

Family members, loved ones, primary care providers and therapists can be a key part of this process. But how? Here’s what you need to know about navigating mental health issues for men.

Why do men struggle with mental health?

For some people, cultural expectations and traditional views of masculinity have created a stigma around seeking help for mental health concerns. There are many values in society that implicitly or explicitly suggest that men should be strong, tough and never show vulnerability.

This can make it difficult for men to admit when they're struggling and can prevent them from seeking professional help, like a counselor or therapist, when needed.

4 signs someone may need mental health help

It's essential to be aware of the signs of changing mental health in your loved ones, so you can step in and support them. Let’s discuss some of the most common signs.

1. Changes in behavior or mood: Look out for sudden shifts in mood or behavior, such as increased irritability, sadness or anxiety. These can be warning signs of mental health issues that may need to be addressed.
2. Physical symptoms related to stress: Stress can manifest in various physical symptoms, such as headaches, feeling tired, stomach aches or an increased heart rate. These symptoms can indicate that a person's mental health might need attention.
3. Withdrawal from social activities: When someone is struggling with mental health, they may start to avoid social activities or interactions they once enjoyed.
4. Increased use of substances: Some people may turn to alcohol, drugs or other substances as a coping mechanism for their mental health struggles.

Remember, if you or someone you know is displaying these signs, help is out there. Speak to a mental health professional or talk to your primary care provider. 

6 ways to support men’s mental health

Creating a safe space can encourage anyone—including men—to open up about their feelings. Here are some strategies to support someone who is experiencing mental health issues, such as depression or anxiety.

1. Be an active listener, without judgment: Show that you are genuinely interested in what they have to say and avoid interrupting or making them feel judged.
2. Encourage vulnerability: Show that it's okay to be vulnerable by sharing your own experiences and emotions.
3. Respect their privacy and boundaries: Respect the privacy of the person sharing their feelings and respect their boundaries if they are not ready to share with others.
4. Use 'I' statements to express concern: Use "I" statements to express yourself and show that you care, such as, “I’m glad you told me how you’re feeling.”
5. Avoid assumptions and stereotypes: Don't make assumptions about why someone is feeling a certain way. Instead, ask questions and let them share their story.
6. Be patient and consistent: Building trust takes time and consistency. Be patient and show up for them regularly to create a safe and supportive environment.

Mental health support options for men

If you're living with depression, anxiety or other mental health issues, you don’t have to struggle alone. Fortunately, there are many different places for men to get the support they need.

• Therapists and counselors specializing in men’s mental health: Mental health professionals focus on understanding and addressing your unique experiences to provide guidance and support, acting as mental health coaches.
• Support groups and workshops for men: Joining these groups allows you to connect with others who may be in a similar situation. They provide a safe environment for sharing and learning from those who have also faced mental health challenges.
• Forums and social media groups: Online platforms can offer spaces to discuss mental health among peers. Joining these communities feels like becoming part of a supportive team, with everyone motivated to help each other.
• Mental health apps and tools: Mental health apps can help track daily your mood, provide tips for feeling better and be a safe space to journal. One of the best parts of these apps is that they are always accessible when needed.
• Helplines and crisis centers: When things become overwhelming, helplines and crisis centers are available 24/7 to lend a listening ear and assist during emergencies.

In an event of a serious mental health crisis, call 911 or go to the nearest hospital to get help immediately.

Mental health is a priority for men, too

Everyone can benefit from feeling strong and healthy each day. By opening up about mental health, you're not just helping yourself; you're making it easier for everyone in your life—including men—to speak up too.

If you feel like you or someone you love could benefit from working with a mental health professional, speak to your primary care provider or find mental health support near you.